For the benefit of the server, here’s an excerpt of my response:
Best way to learn is by experiencing one yourself and taking notes. Here’s a server I’ve seen grow to a lot of developers.
https://discord.gg/reactiflux - go check it out and write a blog post every day on what you’re learning there. It generally takes about a month before realising how a community clicks (the first time), after observing the first 12-15 (each with daily notes), then you’ll be able to identify better (and faster). All the best and feel free to send me your blog where you are making the daily observation posts.